What makes you uncomfortable?

Dr Susan David says that “Discomfort is the price of admission to a meaningful life.” She speaks and writes about the dangers of ‘toxic positivity and says that this tendency to avoid hard feelings and difficult conversations can only lead to trouble in the long run. She is not telling us to be indulgent andContinue reading “What makes you uncomfortable?”

Birthdays

A friend of mine at work said she was dreading her birthday. Why? I asked. Well, I just don’t want to get older, she sighed. It is better than the alternative! I retorted. Yesterday was my birthday and I wanted to share my thoughts on birthdays: why they are important, why I feel they deserveContinue reading “Birthdays”

A beautiful paradox

Julia Samuels, the renown British Psychotherapist, expert on grief and bereavement and author of the wonderful, This too Shall Pass, has coined a phrase that really speaks to me at this time. She speaks of a “Fertile Void.”  We tend to see situations as black or white, this or that, either or. And it isContinue reading “A beautiful paradox”

Afresh, Afresh

I went to a lovely Yin class recently and the theme of the meditation was spring, renewal and decluttering the mind. It got me thinking about this poem by Philip Larkin. You can feel his jealousy as the trees are permitted to start again, get a second chance, while we all have to age. AndContinue reading “Afresh, Afresh”

A Gift.

A poem can teach us a lesson, like a wise sage calling to us from the past. In this poem we are being asked to consider, with gratitude, the gifts of experiencing everything, the sorrows, the pain, the joy, the delights. In short, we cannot experience anything if we don’t experience everything. So, let thatContinue reading “A Gift.”

Let’s cancel resolutions. Just dive in.

New year new /being me. I am not a huge fan of resolutions. They are too much pressure and most of the time you fail and then just feel worse. There is something profoundly wrong about the concept of a ‘new you’. Instead, let us reframe that and consider what you like about the youContinue reading “Let’s cancel resolutions. Just dive in.”